Hi, My name is Ursula “She-Wolf” Parson. I am a black woman, on the outside and the inside. Some of you may have seen the idiotic comment Perez Hilton made earlier, in which he stated “Inside every gay man is a fierce black woman!” and linked a video of Pia Glenn that I didn’t bother watching because let’s face it — nothing in that video could have justified what he said.
Anyway, the idea — the caricature, really — of black women that Perez Hilton has in his idea is not me. I don’t say this to distance myself from black womanhood, I say it to distance myself from this bullshit non-human “fierce black woman” “positive” stereotype that Hilton is perpetuating. I am not a finger-snapping, neck-rolling, ball-busting Sapphire. Though I am a female adult who considers herself independent and strong (most of the time), I’m not a Strong Independent Black Woman ™. Frankly, if I may be honest, I’m not “fierce” by any stretch of the imagination. Sure I stand up for myself, and I’m no pushover, but I hardly strike fear into the hearts of my enemies.
The thing is, I, just like every other black woman on Earth, am an individual person with an individual personality and individual quirks. Black women are not a monolith or a stereotype or a mascot or a sidekick or in any way collectively representative of anything, let alone white people’s moods. The idea that every gay man has a “fierce black woman” inside them is insulting to gay men, black women, and in fact the entire human species and probably also animals, insects, bacteria, and aliens. Black women don’t exist inside anyone but black women. Period.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to listen to some Teutonic folk metal like the human being that I am.